Ok so I KNOW what you're thinking. All you moms out there are like "yeah you think that's hard just WAIT till you have a few babies." And really... I can't wrap my head around that. Is that a problem that I can't? I mean you could throw a baby at me right now and I'd be happy as a clown but really... are you ever REALLY ready for children? All I know is I still have a ways of perfecting my "housewife" duties.. responsiblities... obligations.. whatever word makes you happy.But I can tell you this. I am good at the following:
-Baking. I could bake all day and all night if someone allowed it. I'd also probably be 4593 pounds, but I'd be happy. This is not necessarily a good thing either, because even though I tend to go for the "healthy" baking--both Bobby and I are kind of healthy nuts-o's and my husband gets mad at me when there are treats around. Hmph. :(
-Cleaning WHEN guests are coming over. I never EVER knew I would be like this... I've always known I was on the "messy" side... but when people are coming over to my home I don't know what it is but I get a LITTLE crazy. I've never vaccuumed so much in my life. (literally... if you knew my last apartment I went a whole year without vaccuuming... don't judge me, i was rarely home so it really wasn't that dirty). Maybe it's that I like people coming over and thinking "wow she's not as bad as I thought she'd be". I don't know but it's a little OCD.
-Telling my husband when he is wrong. I'm KIND of opinionated and as my family likes to tell me I think I'm always right. But really don't we all? I'm SLOWLY learning that marriages can't really work like this. Yes Bobby lets me have my way 98% of the time, but it shouldn't be 98 it should probably be like 50%? Ya? I'll work on it. Either way I don't know how good of a thing this is, but I do know I'm good at it. :)
-Ok back to cleaning. I'm good at it when I do it. That goes with Laundry. I never realized how much more laundry I have to do when living with another person. Sheesh.
So I'm sitting here trying to think of more things I'm good at but... I think it's always easier seeing the things we're bad at. So the list goes as follows...
-Deep cleaning every week. I didn't think about this when we signed up to live in a place that has 4 bathrooms, 3 bedrooms, a den, and a garage and is 3 levels.
-Organizing. We've been married for almost 2 months now and I still haven't gone through my boxes of "stuff" (non-clothing related) from moving. Yikes.
-I'm bad at taking advantage of my only REAL day off (monday). Instead I'd rather.... go hiking, go shopping, go to the gym, sleep... you know. All the selfish things I get to do. For some weird reason running those erands, grocery shopping, and scrubbing those toilets doesn't sound as appealing as the others. dang.
-Reading my scriptures every day. We're AWESOME at saying our night-time prayers together but shoot that scripture study can be hard sometimes. This is one I am sad about and we are CONSTANTLY trying to do better. We see great things in our relationship when we are studying together.
So I guess I shouldn't go on more. This whole marriage thing is such an adventure. I'm not gonna lie... I thought this newlywed thing was going to be a sinch. Afterall... we've known eachother basically our whole lives... loved eachother for what feels like an eternity.. and dated longer than the average lds couple. I knew his flaws, he knew mine... but I am learning EVERY day things I need to be better at. At the end of the day I love it. I love him, I love us, I love our not so always clean house, and I love that we are always happy to see each other.
Yay for marriage.
5 comments:
Your cute! I think you would be crazy if you didn't think marriage was hard! So many things to work out and get used to at once...it is hard! And what the heck are you living in such a big place for? Sounds overwhelming just thinking about cleaning it! :) Our first place was tiny! Good luck and just enjoy each other. You will only be newlyweds for so long....
Oh Kayleen!!! Your funny :) It is alot of work....it still is! But at the end of the day it is so worth it! Good Luck :)
LOVE YOU!
haha you're too cute. Yeah being a wife is hard work sometimes. Luckily Darren and I are pretty passive in our relationship, which is strange because we are both strongly opinionated people so you would think we would fight like crazy but I can honestly say we just don't. But that doesn't mean we agree with each other all the time and it doesn't mean that I don't want to rip him a new one when he loads the dishwasher wrong still after being married 6 years or the fact that he thinks that his clothes magically grow legs and make it to the laundry room, clean themselves and end up neatly folded in his drawer again :) I have to say marriage is definitely the best thing I have done in my life though, yes having kids was a great one too but marriage got me to that so I say marriage was the best. You're awesome and it's awesome that you are the same person you've always been but it seems like you have grown and really matured in the last little bit and that makes you even better
you're adorable. i love you.
Ha ha ha! I think they tell us newlywed phase is so nice because if they don't, no one would do it! It is super hard but it gets better! Thanks for your honesty. It's like me! People will ask me, how's marriage? I usually respond, it's a great opportunity for personal growth! It's hard work!!! No lies from me! :)
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